• Eleacia Thesing

{ Boundaries } Prioritizing Mental Health

It has taken me years to say “No.” I am a people pleaser and I all too often say “yes” to other people's wants while failing to prioritize my needs, resulting in high anxiety, exhaustion, a short fuse and poor mental health.

Over time I have learned, you can’t give yourself to everything and expect high results in every task. Something is going to give. I failed to set boundaries and I suffered because of it.


“Boundary setting helps you prioritize your needs over other people’s wants.” - Lauren Kenso

Quarantine life was two and half months of forced boundaries. The universe decided and I was along for the ride. I realized how wonderful life can be when you are not working every moment of every day.


Now, nearly the end of June and back to working full time I have to keep my mental health at the front of my mind. I ask myself before I commit to anything, “Will this negativity affect my mental health?”


If yes, I let it go.


I protect my time because it seems to just slip away when I go through the motions. I spend more time doing the things I love like gardening or cooking. I have more time to move my body, go for a bike ride or practice yoga. I set a daily schedule and stick to it.


Boundaries are essential for everyone at every age and it is not an easy strength to develop. Some conversations require a firm tone and sticking to the words you spoke. Do not minimize yourself or let self doubt take over. “No” is a full sentence and if something is not serving you, let it go.


Daily mental health check-in:

  1. What gives me energy?

  2. What am I grateful for?

  3. What is not supportive to my mental health and why?


As we move forward from quarantine, civil unrest and find safe ways to assimilate to a new virus, our mental health is imperative. There are hundreds of amazing therapists in our city, utilize them!!! No shame in seeking help.


xoxo, Eleacia


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